Yet, Wayne turned out to be very successful at a relatively young age winning over club owners with his brash can-do attitude. On top of that, Wayne had managed to win the heart of the stunning Li, a year-old Broadway dancer, who had her choice of suitors.

They had been together for two years, but as she pressed to move into his place, he nervously told her he was not sure, that he did not know what love really was. Then, at one of his events, Wayne met a young model and took her right to bed.

He began courting the new girlfriend while still maintaining some contact with Li. Finally, Li confronted Wayne and he confessed. Wayne tried to make it up to her but he refused to make a commitment for the future.

After a few torturous months, Li told him that she was done. After a few months of therapy, Wayne realized how he had self-destructed when his business started to fail. His fears of not measuring up had grabbed him by the throat and to make himself feel like a man again he went after the model.

Unfortunately, that only worked for a short period of time. Wayne told me that he was ashamed that his fears had driven away the only woman he had ever loved. With my encouragement, Wayne asked Li to come back.

Actually, he begged her. Wayne also invited her to join him in a few therapy sessions. When Li saw that Wayne had true remorse and after he asked her to marry him with a ring she did forgive him.

Fear of Not Measuring Up Warning Signs : He brags and may exaggerate his accomplishments to the point of lying about them. Winning at work or with women is critical to his feeling OK. If this type of guy experiences a setback in work, he may slink away in shame or like Wayne find another woman to boost his ego.

He may harbor secrets about relatives who are in mental hospitals, in jail or just poor. You may have seen this type of guy depicted on film or TV as the man who can only get married if he completely hides his past.

On the award-winning series Mad Men , the super successful hunky lead, ad executive Don Draper, has completely hidden his background and even changed his identity including his name. For a long time on the show, no one, including his beleaguered upper-middle-class wife, knows his true history.

For this type of guy, opening up and expressing his deeper feelings is impossible because he will have to come clean. And in his world, confession is definitely not good for the soul.

Another variation of this fear has to do with an inner sense of having some horrible and unfix-able flaw. In relationships, he will often project onto his partner by being super critical and judgmental and looking for her fatal flaw.

Guy was a lawyer who was somewhat short in stature, something that had bothered him since he stopped growing at His brutal father, a big and burly Italian pizza restaurant owner, frequently beat him when he was a child.

But Guy was tenacious, studied hard, and made it into one of the top law schools. Years went by and with his hard work ethic and pitbull attitude, he became one of the top litigators in Philadelphia.

When I first met him, he was dressed impeccably in head-to-toe Armani. He had dated Sherri, a quiet social worker for three years. She looked up to Guy and was very shy socially. Guy complained that even though Sherri was kind and beautiful, that she was boring , especially in bed.

He lost a great gal but the next woman he really liked learned about his sad but true history. Fear of Being Found Out Warning Signs : He denies having any needy-type feelings, like being anxious, insecure, or lonely. He may not be able to use the "L" word. He is extremely judgmental about others, especially if they make demands of him.

If a man had an erratic or manipulative mother and a history of being cheated on, used or disappointed by women, he may have major trust issues when it comes to making a commitment.

Mistrusting all women, he vows never to be vulnerable again--because if he is, he will just be hurt. He may fear that all women are mean, manipulative and exploitative. Sometimes this fear can develop when a guy is stuck struggling to extricate himself from an ugly divorce or an angry battle with his ex over their children.

He may come right out and say that he will never marry again. Kai was a flight attendant who navigated a difficult divorce from a very nasty alcoholic woman, who was very much like his raging mother.

When he met Saidah, an earthy warm woman on one of his flights, he was entranced. They had a delightful six months together. But when she started asking about a future, he started to experience her as pushy, just like his ex. Saidah was patient and kind. She felt Kai would come around, especially if she nurtured him.

Kai felt put upon and abused. He went MIA, finally writing her a long goodbye letter. Saidah, on the other hand, learned her lesson and went to one of my trained love Mentors.

She started dating guys who were more open to creating a committed love relationship. He feels like he has been victimized by women. A man may not feel like he is an adult who is ready to take on the responsibilities of a relationship, children, and family life.

This so-called Peter Pan syndrome may have its roots in various types of family dysfunction. He may have been coddled by his parents who protected him from the real world, from the possibility of failure.

Or he may have never been encouraged to try something really hard like a competitive sport or an accelerated school subject where trying and not winning or getting a high grade is a real possibility.

Other Peter Pan guys were just ignored by a divorced or missing father and an overworked Mom. As a result of any of these dynamics, the young man fails to build up his identity as a competent and solid adult male. Internally, he feels like a child, a kid who wants to play, get high, sleep late and work menial jobs with little no responsibility.

No wonder then that our Peter Pan is boyish in his leisure activities. He may be a video game addict, who is glued to his game console at all times. Or he may spend many hours watching or playing sports. Or he worries about his health while smoking pot every day.

He may be still living at home into his 30s. This is a guy who wants to date and have fun, but balks when it comes to having a committed ongoing and serious relationship. Jermaine was an eternal student, with a master's degree and not a pot to pee in.

He worked at Starbucks and lived with his single mom, who was a teacher. He had a childish air about him that Shelly found endearing. Thus began an on-again-off-again relationship that lasted 10 years. They would reunite, but never in a serious fulfilling way.

Eventually, Shelly met with me and decided to end the relationship for good. Once she was finally free, she began dating men who actually had their own places and real careers that were also looking to be in permanent relationships.

They are married and have adorable twin rascals. Fear of Growing Up Warning Signs : He acts juvenile, makes ridiculous jokes or even burps or farts like a little boy. In a conflict, he tends to either quickly back down or have a tantrum to get his way. He may be very concerned with his bodily functions or getting ill.

This type of man has a very hard time making up his mind or trusting his own judgment. When he picks one movie to see, he immediately regrets not choosing another. He is not sure that the company he works at is really the best one for him.

This guy is afraid of making a decision that forecloses on all his other options including choosing you. Leeza, a something cosmetics manager at a department store, was a stunning blonde who met George online.

George was a community college professor who was close to 50 and yet had never been married. George took her out for dinner and bought her expensive gifts at high-end department stores.

At first, Leeza was blown away. But as the months wore on, she noticed that George was really very depressed and never seemed to enjoy the fantastic activities they shared.

After about nine months, Leeza wanted to know where things were heading in the relationship. Leeza asked him to figure out where she stood but all he could say was that he was afraid of making a mistake. With the encouragement of her Love Mentor see Chapter Five , Leeza finally left him and started dating other guys.

George begged her to come back. After he went into therapy and attended some growth courses with her, Leeza did take him back, under the condition that they get engaged. George says it was the best decision he ever made. He tends to overly think things through and obsess.

He is always second-guessing himself. You can think of the Fear-O-Meter as a continuum of intensity of the eight fears. They can occur at normal level, where they are being faced and overcome or they can be exaggerated to the point that the man is so neurotic as to be unable to move into a committed relationship.

Some men become addicts: compulsive video game-players, eaters, drinkers, or workaholics. Others become argumentative, contemptuous, critical or domineering. Still others may act extremely passive or shy or withdraw from any meaningful conversations about the future.

Some act more like hypochondriacs or child-like. Others disappear on you. Still others cheat. When fears are extreme and the guy is acting out in response to those fears there is often nothing that can be done.

Their fear is operating at an unconscious level and therefore controls the outcome of any love relationship. In other words, it goes nowhere. Once the deeper fear is triggered, whether it is by the prospect of seeing each other more regularly, discussing a future together, moving in or getting engaged, a man with extreme fear will at a fundamental level do all he can to pull back.

He is not willing to examine himself, his motives or his fears. No matter how hard or unfair it seems. All of us are faced with two conflicting urges: to merge and become one vs. being independent and free. Both men and women experience these fears.

This is reasonable—compromises have to be made in order to have a relationship. Time needs to be set aside. After all, how many times has it happened that you get involved with some guy and wind up having little time for your girlfriends?

It is normal in the development of a new relationship for your boyfriend to have doubts, to have some measure of virtually all the fears we have been talking about. Sometimes it is hard to tell if a guy has an unworkable commitment phobia or more normal fears that he is willing to work on.

You have to examine whether your boyfriend is trying to be self-reflective and willing to grow. Is he taking growth courses, on a spiritual path, or in therapy? In the last several months or year, is he making progress in his ability to move forward with you?

In opening his social world of friends and family to you? In sharing his physical space? In his ability to discuss what he wants for the future? In his willingness to express love for you? Is he growing more open to taking the next step in moving forward together, i.

If he is moving forward in many of these ways, it shows that his fears are more manageable and in the normal range. If a guy is truly into you and willing to grow, he will face down his fears and make it work with you.

Especially if you accept his need for space and independence , validate his worth and continue to nurture yourself. Remember, he will tend to project his fears and negative expectations onto you and even unconsciously provoke you into being angry, critical or distant.

If you understand this, you can practice loving kindness and not engage in that negative pattern from his past. The brave ask for help, and get the skills they need. Then they take action. No one likes a faker Ronnie was so used to handling it all, I had to chase after him to get on my calendar.

Fast forward, and eight months later, Ronnie finally has a team that can hold their weight. The business brought in more money. A lot more money.

And Ronnie finally started to have time freedom. His leadership skillset sets him apart from peers in his industry. You don't have to do it alone. ACTION: The Upside Challenge of the week is to identify one area of your life where you feel stressed, overwhelmed or on a "runaway train.

Once you've pinpointed this area, ask yourself: Why do I feel out of control here? What support or resources do I need to feel more balanced and empowered?

Who can I reach out to for guidance, coaching, or accountability? You don't have to figure it all out alone. We all need mentors and companions on the journey.

Take one step this week to get the support you need. Whether joining a mastermind group, hiring a coach, or having an honest conversation with a wise friend, you'll gain perspective.

Have courage to take off the mask and be vulnerable. The summit is closer than you think. Committing to Justice, Mercy and Protection. They acknowledged they want full blown acceptance for who they are as a leader, yet struggle with accepting folks for who they are.

And it was a HUGE a-ha moment for them. You probably don't think you're judgy. Most people don't. Yet judgment creeps into your life when you're not clear who you are. I follow a Code of Ethics as adapted from Napoleon Hill. I read my Code aloud almost every morning.

I will be just, generous, and fair always even though I know that these acts will go unnoticed and unrewarded and I understand that my character is the sum total of my actions. Whatever time I may have to devote to the discovery and exposure of the weaknesses and faults of others I will devote, more profitably, to the discovery and correction of my own.

I will slander no person no matter how much I may believe another person may deserve it because I wish to plant no destructive suggestions in my own mind.

Because I want to love folks for who they are not for who I see they can be. And I'm committed to Mercy, Justice, and Protection. Write it down. Read it every day.

And then act accordingly. ACTION: The Upside Challenge of the week is to write your own personal Code of Ethics. Define core values or principles that are most important to you. Describe how you aim to embody these values in your daily life.

Keep your Code of Ethics concise and meaningful. Place it somewhere you will see it often. Read it aloud frequently as a reminder of who you strive to be.

When you are clear on your ethical code, you can act from a place of integrity. You'll be less swayed by the judgments and expectations of others. And then stay grounded in your own values. Experiencing the Mastermind Principle. I n , Napoleon Hill wrote Think and Grow Rich which is the 1 best-selling self-help book of all time.

With over 80 million copies sold , Hill talks about ONE PRINCIPLE for SUCCESS that is more powerful than all of the others. He demonstrates how utilizing this principle creates an unbeatable force because when you join together with others on the same path as you.

You become stronger, wiser, and more available to opportunities to create success on your terms. that you knew that failure was impossible and success was assured? This is what I offered at the Upside Summit.

I want to be your partner on this journey in … …and walk beside you on your journey to you accessing the health, happiness, success and meaning you are destined to have… …to becoming the most optimal version of yourself that you can imagine Our Gateway to Greatness Mastermind, Commitment Conversations and Upside Leaders program are POWERFUL because they offer opportunities to meet together every week to learn, share, and grow together.

The transformations, and insights we experience as a group have produced long-lasting results. So, if you're tired of going it alone and working harder and harder, join the Upside Community and discover how you can increase your influence, income and impact without trading in pieces of your Soul.

It's Your Turn to Fly. The most notable leaders of all time sought to make a difference. Men like ~ Nelson Mandela, ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

Women like ~Mother Theresa, ~Rosa Parks, and ~Maya Angelou. You are born for More. You are being called right now to step into your Divine mission and make a greater difference on the planet.

You get to create the map and go where no one else has gone. Your gifts, talents, abilities and expertise are unique to you. No one else who has lived before or will come after you will have your life or your mission.

There's no one to follow. You have to lead the way. Are you to: 》Sing? What one-of-a-kind contribution do you have to share with the world? This is some of what we dive into at the Upside Summit and in my Leadership Coaching programs.

What if you were to take a God walk and visualize what it would look like to lead your life fully expressing all of who you are?

Both he and his wife had committed to a life that was not conducive to a healthy lifestyle. They were trying to make healthy lifestyle choices With the right guidance, coaching and mentorship, it's easier to remember who you are – and what you're called to do. ACTION: The Upside And how do we start to deal with this constant problem? If you're like me, you have a habit of starting new commitments, new projects, new challenges, new books

Try before making a commitment - I wasn't making progress as fast as I wanted, and I wanted something new to try. When you believe in improving your life, which is worth Both he and his wife had committed to a life that was not conducive to a healthy lifestyle. They were trying to make healthy lifestyle choices With the right guidance, coaching and mentorship, it's easier to remember who you are – and what you're called to do. ACTION: The Upside And how do we start to deal with this constant problem? If you're like me, you have a habit of starting new commitments, new projects, new challenges, new books

However, come graduation and the culmination my competitive running career, this unstoppable motivation seemed to fade. I logged countless hours at my computer, but what did I have to show for it? Then one day I had an epiphany. Walking across campus after another painfully ineffective work day, my head spun with frustration and thoughts of self pity.

Suddenly I stopped. In an eerie flashback, the same questions that surfaced at the end of my championship race materialized on the screen on my mind: Why are you holding back? Standing in the middle of the quad, I felt that the fog had lifted and leaving in its place was an intense clarity.

I suddenly realized that the pain of halfheartedness was far greater than my fear of failure. In that moment, I made the incredibly liberating decision to release the breaks I had been unconsciously pressing for months and commit to pure unshackled effort.

I decided to go for it. When it comes to getting paid to do what you love, are you interested or committed? Too many people stroll passively through life, intrigued by a whole slew of possibilities but not committed to making any of them a reality.

If the thought of slaving away in a cubicle for the rest of your life is a powerful enough motivator for you to work your ass of in order to escape it, I invite you to join me… and go for it.

THERE IS ALWAYS MORE TO LEARN. The amount of information on the internet is equivalent to a stack of books stretching from Earth to Pluto 10 times! If you keep waiting until you finish that book, podcast or video course, if you keep waiting until you are ready, you will never be ready.

I learned more during my first product launch in one week than I did during the prior 6 months of ravenous information consumption. Concepts are introduced via information; skills are honed through action.

In fact, if you want to be successful, learning MUST be a continual process. The key is to distinguish between the kind of compulsive, ineffective learning that so many new marketers struggle with and learning for the sole purpose of taking action.

Start now and correct your course as you go along. You know enough. Are you ready to throw off the bowlines and fully commit yourself to achieving a life of freedom and adventure?

GET YOUR MINDSET RIGHT Success in any aspect of life starts with your mindset. Faulty beliefs and assumptions are like powerful headwinds halting your progress and blowing you off course.

You must take a good look at your life and decide that nothing is going to stand in your way of success. Back in high school I made the decision that no one was going to beat me to the finish line.

I made a commitment at a fundamental level that I was going to do anything it took to achieve my goal. This kind of raw, unrestrained dedication is extremely powerful. Trust me. So before you do anything, get ruthlessly clear about what your ultimate outcome looks like. Nail down exactly what you want, how you are going to get there and on what sort of timeline you plan to reach your destination.

For me, I want to have the freedom to pay my way through college, go to Alaska next summer and help build a school for orphans in India. This is what motivates me to continuously give my all.

The key is to sculpt a vision that is so freaking awesome you are willing to do anything to achieve it. Work for the sake of work is not the goal. The goal is to live and work on your own terms. This is especially significant if you already have a busy life full of responsibilities.

In order to achieve freedom and escape the trap of selling your time for money, you must be ruthlessly selective about what you work on and what you ignore. What should you work on? It all depends upon what stage you are on right now. But if I could work on just one aspect of my business, creating invaluable content would be it.

No question. Hands down. In order to stay committed, you need a way of holding yourself accountable. It was cold and rainy. My kitty, Remy, took a few steps onto the porch and ran back in.

Our hot Texas summer had just skipped over fall and landed smack dab into winter. This would not normally be an issue.

Crazy idea, right? I shut the door and tip-toed back to my warm bed. it felt so good. I never qualified where. I told myself, if I meditate inside today, who would know? I rolled over and tried to go back to sleep. I felt restless. Something was nagging at me. After about 5 minutes, I got up and opened the back door again.

Still cold. Still rainy. Then it hit me. I had made a commitment. I had this feeling that if I committed to something that challenged me and took me out of my comfort zone, it might help me get unstuck.

Staying in bed was giving in to the stuckness. So I put on my rain jacket and plastic cycling pants and grabbed my umbrella. Yes, it was cold and wet. And the rain kept coming. But I ended up having a delightful time. Remy even ran out to join me for a few minutes. It was really empowering to push through the resistance to something uncomfortable.

By the end of my meditation, I could hardly sit still on the bench, I was so pumped with energy. I was half-expecting to take flight with my umbrella. I WILL DO whatever it takes to make this happen. I believe you have what it takes to do this!

This mindset is so important, because what often gets in our way is a barrage of motivation-zapping thoughts, such as:. I need to see all the steps. Other people are better than me. What if I fail? These limiting thoughts are so not rocket fuel.

In fact, they are anti-rocket fuel. They are the wet blankets that can put out the wildfire of our dreams. Big C — I will do everything in my power to have work I enjoy by Little c — I will spend 2 hours every week working on my career direction.

Big C — I will get healthy and in shape by the summer of Little c — I will exercise three times a week and prepare food for the week on Sundays.

Big C — I will write a novel by Little c — I will write 2, words a week on my novel. Big C — I will be out of debt in 5 years. Little c — I will devote one hour a week to my finances until I have a good plan in place to be out of debt. The Little c commitment needs to be as strong as the Big C commitment.

We can get overwhelmed by a goal that seems unobtainable, but each of us has the power to take one step at a time. The SECRET of success is that as you honor your commitments to yourself, you send a powerful message to your subconscious that you have faith in yourself.

You trust yourself. Trust in yourself, combined with the carbon fibers of commitment, transforms your desires from mere wishes to marching orders. So if you are feeling weak on faith in yourself, your Little c commitments will start to build that trust. What could have been feelings of guilt and self-reproach are instead feelings of self-confidence, and that is rocket fuel.

So then the next challenge becomes not only more doable but even enticing. Postscript — I ended up doing consecutive days of meditation. The day after I spoke at the SEAK Nonclinical Careers Conference, I totally forgot and broke my streak.

I was completely freed from feeling stuck. Career Change Career Enhancement Job Search Personal Development. Wonderful piece.

As a mom of 5 kids, 4 school aged still, and trying to find the path to return to work, a couple hours a day can be directed towards a larger goal by adding up smaller personal victories. You are incredibly welcome Stephanie!

I really appreciate your taking the time to read and share your kind and thoughtful comments. I have full confidence that you can meet your goal of returning to work.

Awesome mindset preparation. This article simply describes how perseverance can be an actual day-to-day attitude. Thanks for the practical idea. it gave me a boost!!! I am really happy if the blog is giving you some rocket-fuel!

Thanks so much for reading and giving me a boost! All the best to you with your commitments. Were you speaking DIRECTLY to me with this blog post? I feel you were.

Change is HARD! I have little time left on this earth, so why clutter it with THIS! And maybe something unforeseen and good will come out of my decision for me and for others. My commitment fulfill date was today!

Awesome sauce Lynette!!! People who met you at SEAK and heard your great intro likely think that now that you made it to being a paid speaker, the doubts and uncertainty are gone. If we want to continue to grow and challenge ourselves and not gather moss, we have to keep facing new doubts and fears.

But you are a great example of getting back on the horse and galloping into the unknown boldly and with unbridled enthusiasm. Go Lynette! Thanks for being a beacon to other physicians and showing how one can forge a creative path. Thank you for this post.

It is so relevant for me at the moment. I am on the precipice of needing to make a change, but the leap seems too big and honestly, scary. Anyway, your ideas make sense and I love reading about your own challenges.

Hi Andrea, I very much appreciate your commenting and sharing your own experience. I can so picture the toe dip that barely makes it into the water. It is sooooo common to have these challenges around making changes. The more we speak out about the struggle, the more it becomes normalized and that can actually be freeing.

I hope the waters start feeling a little better to your toe and you can linger a bit to learn what they experience can tell you!

Wishing you much success on the journey. Thank you for this post, Heather! As others have said, your timing is impeccable! I am proud of you for keeping your commitment to yourself. At the end of the day we answer to ourselves and it does create positive momentum when promises are kept, whether they are a little c or big C.

The concept is so simple yet often one of the hardest to embrace and put into motion. Thank you for sharing your story and for all that you have done to help me and so many others.

Thank you Megan for your very sweet comments. All of you have made my day. I never know when I write a blog whether or not it will be helpful. I learn so much through the work I do and consider it a true privilege to help other physicians.

Each one of you teaches me so much with how you move forward in your own lives, often juggling incredible loads and responsibilities, and not giving in or giving up. You have made a lot of inspiring changes this year Megan, and I am proud of your commitment and courage — so back at you!

I often tell aspiring authors that the most important step to write a book is to schedule specific dates and times to write and schedule them in as if they were importants meetings—they are!

You are most welcome Dr. Wishing you all the best for a great new year. I really appreciate your taking the time to read and comment.

I am happy that the post was helpful for you. Loved your website by the way. All the best to you. Often, we merely wish for change without wholeheartedly committing to action. This piece underscores the vital significance of resolute commitment in achieving our goals. Thank you for reading this blog and commenting!

I know for me, unless I make a deadline for my goals, time becomes elastic and I keep pushing the can down the road!

Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. We also did interview prep via Zoom and I was offered a great job in UM. She has continued to follow up even after I was offered this job, helping me with pointers about negotiating.

I will totally recommend the Doctors Crossing and Heather to anyone feeling stuck like me and looking for a great coach! Thank you Heather!

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Become a man who has the iron will to finish his important commitments. Life is too short to be wavering. Previous post: Refraining From Letting Ourselves Numb Out.

Next post: 3 Simple Mindset Shifts to Transform Your Work Tasks. Not being good at finishing things. Getting out when things are uncomfortable and difficult — just when you should be going deeper.

I stay in the discomfort. Make the space, create structure and make it happen. Make the space and structure for it. Push into the discomfort and go deeper. Pause before taking on new things.

Instead, become a finisher. Trust me. So before you do anything, get ruthlessly clear about what your ultimate outcome looks like. Nail down exactly what you want, how you are going to get there and on what sort of timeline you plan to reach your destination.

For me, I want to have the freedom to pay my way through college, go to Alaska next summer and help build a school for orphans in India. This is what motivates me to continuously give my all. The key is to sculpt a vision that is so freaking awesome you are willing to do anything to achieve it.

Work for the sake of work is not the goal. The goal is to live and work on your own terms. This is especially significant if you already have a busy life full of responsibilities.

In order to achieve freedom and escape the trap of selling your time for money, you must be ruthlessly selective about what you work on and what you ignore. What should you work on?

It all depends upon what stage you are on right now. But if I could work on just one aspect of my business, creating invaluable content would be it.

No question. Hands down. In order to stay committed, you need a way of holding yourself accountable. Here are my top three ways:. What are you waiting for? There will always be a new problem standing in your way. Something you need to do before you can fully commit yourself.

Do it flamboyantly. No exceptions. Give something or everything your all. Originally posted on paidtoexist. As many Americans face economic hardship during the COVID outbreak, we were so excited to feature personal finance expert Suze Orman last month in our Leading From Home Broadcast Webinar series.

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Personal Growth , NSLS Blog. Interest reads a blog post; commitment applies that post day after day. Interest works an hour a day on your business; commitment works whenever time permits. Interest makes excuses; commitment constantly acquires new skills and solutions.

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Here are my top three ways: Use the Weekly Daily Goals system to keep track of your most important tasks. At the beginning of each week, write down your top goals for the next 7 days. Before you go to bed each night, write down key tasks that, if accomplished, will leave you satisfied with your day.

Once you complete your goals for the day, stop guilt free. Tell others what you are doing. Even if their reactions are less than supportive, getting your ambitions out in the open will help you stay committed. Join a community. Surrounding yourself with like-minded people who are rooting for and expecting your success can be extremely powerful.

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